Wednesday, July 5, 2017

Fielding Rejection Until You're Carved Out of Wood

It's the first Wednesday of the month. Time for Alex J. Cavanaugh's Insecure Writer's Support Group post! The Insecure Writer's Support Group is a brave space where we share our insecurities and offer up useful advice. Click the link to join!

The most valuable lesson being a writer has taught me is how to take rejection. Whether it's losing contests, being denied grants and residencies, or just flat out denied representation we learn where our deep inner strength lies and how to tap into it. Finding strength is a breakthrough! If you don't have "the breakthrough" it's only a matter of time until you say, "I suck." and give up.

Every time a pitch gets shot down by an editor, I'm told by a publisher, "This is not for us.", or I'm given a scathing review I tap into the strong core center of my being. That hardened core has taken so many beatings it's now carved out of wood. If I wasn't a writer, I wouldn't have learned to be this strong. My breakthrough and the IWSG community are obscenely important to me. 

Do you feel the same way? What's the most important lesson you've learned since you started writing?