Writing for an audience takes a village. Once we're secure enough with ourselves to ask for help we truly start to develop and grow. In order to hone our voice we need other writers that can be brutally honest.
I've learned to put my mistakes out there. Look at the above, it's horrible! It's also part of a 240 page novel that is bound to have a few blunders. I'm not going to beat myself up over it.
There is nothing anyone can tell me about my writing that I haven't already said to myself a thousand times. My only request is make it useful!
This is why my editor is awesome. He doesn't waste my time. When I see dump this or hell no and kill your exclamation points!, it makes the journey so much easier.